
So this was my sister’s and my birthday cake (we are four years and a day apart!). It was awesome and surprisingly easy. Make it a day ahead though, because it needs a minimum of 8 hours to chill and set up. This is a dessert that will make those on a SAD wowed!
It comes out of the pan beautifully and was enough to feed a crowd (which we had). It would be super decadent with whip cream and/or berries. We celebrated in a packed-out microbrewery, so barely had room to eat the cake. There were no toppings to be had unless we wanted a giant mess. Although my little guy managed to create one anyways…But he was happy as a clam while he did so.
My heart this week…er, month. I had a conversation with a friend quite awhile ago about what I meant by Christians judging. It was a great talk and made me think. In my two posts about Christianity/Church I have very generally and easily described the shame-judgment-and-now-I’ll-add-religious-perfection paradigm.
The problem being, my posts were over simplified. And unfortunately life is complicated.
I knew I was generalizing at the time, but those posts rants were meant to address my number one gigantic issue & struggle with Church and Christianity. I wasn’t trying to solve the complexity of it at that point. I just wanted to put it out there, because we have a real hard time admitting it exists.
I had intended on posting this shortly after the conversation with my friend. But I didn’t feel exactly right about it. It didn’t feel complete. Honestly it still felt incredibly lacking, naive and just not excellent.
And a little too ranty…I wanted more depth this time.
The last week I worked my way through Brennan Manning’s book The Ragamuffin Gospel.
{And as a side note: He is utterly amazing. His words have brought healing and restoration to my spirit. He is supremely wise and wholly humble all at the same time. And I look forward to reading all of his books. You should too}
At any rate, this book has given me the strength my own thoughts lacked.
With this post (or two) I am going to wander through defining what I mean by “judging/shame/religious perfection” and exploring how [I think] to not go down that road. After each of my thoughts, I will have a quote from the book…Manning articulates this much better than me.
During our conversation, my friend had these remarkable words that I want to preface all this with: “We are all doing the best we can.” The point of all of this is that we need to respect each other. None of us has it figured out.
The question we tried to dissect during our conversation was: “How do we, as Christians, have our morals and stay in God’s boundaries without it appearing and/or being judgmental-shaming-religious perfection?”
At the time, I stumbled for a resolution. Since reading the book, my simple and complicated answer is this one word: Grace.
To believe deeply, as Jesus did, that God is present and at work in human life is to understand that I am a beloved child of this Father…
Brennan Manning, The Ragamuffin Gospel, emphasis mine
God is present in all of us. Jesus is working in each and every one of our lives. We are all broken. We are all sinners.
And we are all saved by grace.
Our approach, our hearts, our spirits, our words, our actions, our thoughts– need to be centered in grace.
Jesus’ saving grace.
Any church that will not accept that it consists of sinful men and women, and exists for them, implicitly rejects the gospel of grace. As Hans Kung says, ‘It deserves neither God’s mercy nor men’s trust.’ The church must constantly be aware that it’s faith is weak, its knowledge dim, its profession of faith halting, that there is not a single sin or failing which it has not in one way or another been guilty of. And though it is true that the church must always disassociate itself from sin, it can never have any excuse for keeping any sinners at a distance. If the church remains self-righteously aloof from failures, irreligious and immoral people, it cannot enter justified into God’s kingdom.
Woah.
Re-read that. Re-read it again.
Brennan Manning is calling us out in this book. We are the sinners. There is no “them.” We are in need of Jesus’ saving grace just like everyone else.
So here are my questions for you & me; the questions we need to be asking ourselves to stay off this path.
Are we separating and isolating, are we drawing lots of lines, do we have this mentality of ‘us vs. them?’ If we are answering yes to any of these, it’s an alarm that there is probably judging and shaming going on.
Whenever religion shows contempt or disregards the rights of persons, even under the noblest pretexts, it draws us away from reality and God.
Is church & Christianity a way for us to prove how good and smart we are? Do we somehow associate following the rules with Jesus’ love? — Be honest.
“The pious fellowship permits no one to be a sinner. So everyone must conceal his sin from himself and from their fellowship. We dare not be sinners. Many Christians are unthinkably horrified when a real sinner is suddenly discovered among the righteous. So we remain alone with our sin, living in lies & hypocrisy. The fact is that we are sinners!” James 5:16, as quoted from the book
Truthfully have a heart check. Am I separating out of fear? Am I growing in love in Christ?
“What we are really afraid of,” he said, “is our reputation. We are much more afraid of what people might say than the trouble this alcoholic might bring. As we’ve been talking, five short words have been running through my mind. Something keeps repeating to me, ‘What would the Master do?’” {emphasis mine}
Am I approachable to those not on my side of the line? – I am a sinner too, God’s grace is offered to them, just as it is for me. What’s important to keep in mind: We can remain on our side of the line and still cultivate connection with those on the other side (Jesus did this daily!). We can remain approachable. We can remain loving.
The poor in spirit are the most nonjudgmental of peoples, they get along well with sinners.
Finally, my ultimate heart check for where you land on the judgment/shame/religious perfection continuum:
Jesus brought a message that spoke to the deepest longings of the human heart to become not simply conformed to a religious subculture but transformed into “new creatures.” Instead of focusing on the boundaries, Jesus focused on the center, the heart of spiritual life. When asked to identify what the law is about Jesus’ response was simply “Love God, love people.” He named a fundamentally different way of identifying who are the children of God: “Do they love God, and do they love the people who mean so much to Him?”
-The Life You Always Wanted by John Ortberg, emphasis mine
“They” are those people, just as we are. There is a thread that weaves us all together. That gives us a shared story; it’s called humanity. Humanity in all its joy and pain, dreams and nightmares, shame and honor, dark and light, utter failures and grand triumphs, brokenness and wholeness, faith and doubt, holiness and depravity.
Grace is for all, because we are all in desperate need of it.
The gospel of grace announces: forgiveness precedes repentance. The sinner is accepted before he pleads for mercy. It is already granted. He need only receive it. Total amnesty. Gratuitous pardon. {emphasis mine}
We must not forget, that grace was and is extended to us –all of us.
P.S. I love that last quote, it fills me with such hope.
Raw Chocolate Cheesecake
***Seen on Cooking A La Mel
Make SURE to check HERE for my stance on Nut Butters & standard Ingredients.
Ingredients
Crust
2 Cups Walnuts or Pecans
2 Teaspoons Coconut Oil
1/4 Cup Cocoa Powder
1/4 Cup Maple Syrup
Filling
2 Cups Cashews, raw
1 Cup Zucchini, peeled & cut into chunks
1/2 Cup Cocoa Powder.
1/4-1/2 Cup Maple Syrup, start with the lesser amount and add more to your preference
1 Tablespoon Vanilla
1/4 Cup Coconut Oil, melted
Putting It Together:
1). Grease two 6″, one 8″ pan, or a muffin tin, set aside. To make your crust, pulse the walnuts/pecans in your food processor until they resemble fine crumbs. Add in the remaining crust ingredients and pulse until a dough forms. Remove and press dough evenly into prepared pan(s). Then place in your freezer while you make the filling.
2). To make your filling, process the cashews in your food processor until they become a fine powder. Add in the remaining ingredient, EXCEPT the coconut oil and process until smooth and creamy. Add in the coconut oil and pulse to combine
3). Pour the filling into your crust (or divide between the two crusts/12 muffin cups) and chill in the fridge about 8 hours, or until set. Remove, cut & serve. Store any remainders in the fridge.